I made a Moroccan friend online and he kept inviting me to go surfing with him. Finally I went and we ended up sleeping together. Well, he put on the whole charm and basically I realised later was manipulating me from the word go. Pretty much everything he told me was a lie, including he was adopted, wanted so badly more than naything just to know who his mum was, even introduced me to a guy saying this man had gone through all the records to find the mum with no joy.
Well his family are alive and kicking but he played on me as this vulnerable sweet person and for a while, that’s what he was. I kept going back to see him, I lunched out my business a bit and making money and spent a lot as he didn’t have a place to stay. This was suitable and I got a lawyer to sort out the papers for him to come to see me. Except then he started to get nasty and abusive.
But I thought I was in love with him and because he was so sweet in the beginning somehow I thought that person was going to come back. Actually he had told this lie that his adoptive mum had died, he said this to justify his increasing craziness. He needed money in his account to get the visa, my lawyer said 2000 £ but he convinced me to hand over 6500.
He promised that he would not touch it, I repeatedly told him I need that money. This is painful to talk about but he was pressuring me to marry him to the extent of sending pictures of himself on a roof saying he would jump if I didn’t marry him. He was using mind games on me and I thought I was in love with him. All the time he was saying I didn’t love him to get me to do more and more for him, looking back it was crazy but he is a professional manipulator.
I didn’t want to get married because of the Muslim thing, and he lied saying I didn’t have to do it. Well so I reluctantly agreed to the marriage and he tricked me into this place were I ended up saying this stuff whihc was to convert ot Islam and next thing I was married. I asked him for the money back because to get the visa with marriage he didn’t need it. He promised to transfer if but that was the last time I ever saw him.
He first blocked me on the phone, then his friends pressured him to talk to me. I spent several months of him going from abuse to I love you, promising to pay me back and never giving me a penny. This was 8 months ago. Crazy thing was I was warned that arab men did exactly this and ignored it. I even told him someone said this to me and he got so angry.
But it was just what he was doing. It’s not just the money, I am totally traumatised. I am in the middle of a police case but he seems to be bribing the police and I am scared. He threatens to hold me prisoner in the country if I come back to talk to the police. When I look back and realise he just had sex with me to scam me it makes me sick. His name is Hamza Rhani and he is a prolific scam artist. Can you help me?